Matthew 1:19
We all face dilemmas from time to time. A dilemma is a situation where a difficult choice must be made, often between two things. The situation can range from something minor to more extreme. For example, you might face a dilemma deciding whether to withdraw early retirement or wait until a later time. In Matthew’s account of the birth of Jesus, Joseph is faced with a dilemma. The way that he handles the situation shows us how we can reflect both righteousness and grace when we face a dilemma.
Unlike Mary, not much is known of Jesus’ earthly father, Joseph. We do know such things as he was a descendant of King David (Matthew 1:1-16), a carpenter (Matthew 13:55), and that he faithfully followed the Lord’s instructions (Matthew 2:13-23). In Matthew 1:18-20, we do learn a few things about his character as he deals with the dilemma of Mary’s pregnancy. At this time, Jewish law treated betrothal as more legal than our modern engagement. It is at this time that he learns that Mary is pregnant, even though they have not been together yet.
“From the moment of betrothal both parties were regarded, and treated in law, as if they had been actually married, except as regarding their living together.”[1]
This forms the basis for the dilemma that Joseph finds himself in. Joseph could have simply married her, although that would have led to many thinking the child was his. On the other hand, he could have publicly shamed her or condemned her to death according to the Mosaic Law (Deut. 22:23-24). Matthew reminds us that his situation is compounded by the fact that Joseph was a “righteous” (díkaios) man. It is important to note that Matthew’s use of righteous is different than Paul’s, who is often dealing with our position before God. Matthew’s use is related to actions that are right before God.
Joseph would likely have initially felt hurt, betrayed, and potentially ashamed. However, being a man who endeavored to uphold God’s laws and standards, he would need to deal with the dilemma. In other words, Joseph will need to balance justice (upholding the law) with compassion (protecting Mary’s dignity). As a result, Joseph chose the third option available, which was to divorce her privately. This is a picture of both righteousness and grace.
“Joseph’s attitude reflected a person who, though committed to the law of God, felt compassion and concern for one who had seemingly betrayed him.”[2]
Life is full of times when we will be faced with a dilemma. Two difficult choices, yet a choice must be made. Joseph reminds us that we should endeavor to uphold the righteousness of God’s Word. Yet at the same time reflect grace and compassion. By doing so, we not only reflect Joseph but, more importantly, the Lord.
Blessings,
Pastor Steven
[1] Alfred Edersheim. The Life and Times of Jesus the Messiah, 3:354.
[2] Ed Glasscock. Moody Gospel Commentary – Matthew, pg. 43.